It often seems like the moment a bad day begins there is no way out of it—we’re just doomed to failure until it ends. But it does end, and trick to making that happen a little sooner involves one part “time travel” and one part humor. Here’s how to beat a bad day before it starts.
We’ve taken a look at the science behind bad days (along with a few solutions). While operating under some of the same principles, this is a different approach to solving the problem.
The false start
A bad day generally begins with a false start, or even a series of them. You might get up in the morning, get going a little later than you’d hoped, and then when you’re rushing out the door you get to your car and realize you’ve forgotten something. You need it. You head back. You start driving, rushed, and then realize you’re out of gas. You exit the highway but you don’t know where the nearest gas station is. You search big streets and finally find a gas station. You end up overpaying. You’re definitely going to be late today. The gas pump doesn’t accept your debit card because it’s a piece of crap. You have no cash. You have to use the ATM. The ATM is one of those slow ATMs that still uses a dial-up mode. Wait, dial-up, seriously? I DON’T HAVE TIME FOR THIS CRAP!!
And then the rest of the day just gets progressively worse.
This is an example of how a bad day begins, but it’s really not a bad day at all. What happened here is that 1) you made a couple of small mistakes that happened to affect you at the same time, and 2) you’ve started considering normal behavior and events to be bad luck directed at you. You’re not that special. You’re just being self-absorbed. We create bad days by thinking too much about what’s happening to us and not enough about what’s actually happening. We give significance to minutia rather than look at that minutia for what it is. Realizing this is the first step in beating a bad day.
Awareness is key
When something bad happens—whether you’ve caused the pain yourself or you were just the unlucky victim of poor timing—the first thing you need to do is quickly deconstruct the moment, then look at the bigger picture. If a bird needs to evacuate its bowels and you’re unlucky enough to cross paths with the jettisoned poop, there’s really nothing you can do about that. A bird just crapped on you. In a week, you probably won’t even remember it happened. If you forgot to fill up your car with gas, that’s all you did. You’ll lose ten minutes of your morning. The world will remain unchanged. These things all seem very obvious right now but they’re not when you’re angry and emotional. The key to beating a bad day is to quickly convince yourself that what just happened is not a big deal and there’s nothing you can do about it. Of course, that’s a little easier said than done.
Believing the unbelievable
While you know right now that a little bird crap isn’t going to kill you—well, in most cases—you are going to have a hard time believing that while you wipe poop off your face and out of your hair. Fortunately, the way to get around this problem is to do a little time traveling and look to the future. Most of the time, you’re going to laugh about this with friends later. Your friends are going to make fun of you for getting pooped on, and you’ll find it funny too. You need to be a friend to yourself at this moment and start to find it funny. Pretend it happened to someone else if that helps. If you start thinking about the situation abstractly, and then remember it happened to you, you’ll have a much lighter attitude about the entire thing.
The same goes for the gas situation. If you tell your friends about all the mistakes you made that day, and how late it made you that morning, they’re going to laugh at you for being dumb. You got lost finding a gas station less than half a mile from your house. That’s something only someone with your horrible sense of direction would do. Your horrible sense of direction is something you and your friends probably make fun of on a regular basis. It’s not that you’re having a bad day, it’s just that the part of you that’s a total idiot decided to make an appearance. That part of you can have a cameo or a starring role. It’s your choice. Make fun of yourself and laugh about it now, or let these bad events compound and affect you more and more dramatically as the day goes on.
Some bad days cannot be beaten
Sometimes you’re going to get bad news about the death of a loved one, that you’ve lost your job, or something else that’s going to be less of a bad day and more of a sad streak in your life. These are not things you can necessarily laugh about and pass off. Sometimes bad things are going to happen and you have to let them. Sometimes we need to feel sad. If you can shake off your unnecessary bad days, however, the tragedies that sometimes appear in your life will be much easier to handle. Save your energy for truly bad days and, when you can, beat the ones you’re really just causing for yourself.
Image credit: Paul Downey
By Adam Dachis of LifeHacker.com (in the USA) republished with permission.