The seventh and final part of our series from the article I wrote for HCPJ last year.

Self-injury can be seen as a compulsion, but it is not something that just ‘happens to’ a person or is out of their control.

Self-injury is a choice; the person is choosing to cope as best they can. Although self-injury is a chronic syndrome, people can be directly helped to move away from it as a coping tool and make new and better choices. The results, which may not be dramatic, can be life changing.

The following distraction techniques may help.

The 15-minute rule

A professional can explain to a client that they have the choice to hurt themselves, and that their choice is not going to be taken away. The client needs to be encouraged to recognise their own power and then make a decision to put off the self-injury for just 15 minutes. After 15 minutes, they can choose to hurt themselves, or they can assess how their feelings are progressing and choose to wait another 15 minutes.

Surfing the urge

If a professional discusses with their client how it feels to have an emotion (like anger, love, or anxiety) build and grow to intolerable levels, it can be agreed that just as a wave of emotion builds, so it declines. Accepting that emotions (of all types) develop like waves can be a powerful meditation, especially when we focus on how we feel, say two per cent ‘better’ after reflection (perhaps during the 15-minute game).

State change

How we treat our body affects our thoughts and feelings; for example a person who is feeling afraid may make him or herself smaller by hunching their shoulders or hiding behind their hair. By changing their physical behaviour a person may thereby be able to break free from the cycle that leads to self-injury. Standing, breathing from the diaphragm and lifting the head and eyes will change one’s physical state. Washing up is another good activity when there is a need to break cyclical thoughts.
More alternatives and distraction techniques are available from

However we tackle the behaviours around self-harm, we should always approach a person with compassion and respect. They are doing the best they can, and as professionals and carers we can help them to make real changes in their lives.

Other posts from this series:


What is self-injury?

Not just a girl thing

Not so irrational

Hard to stop

Taking care of yourself and your clients

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.